What is complete sexual fufillment!
Many times in life we are faced with how sex is supposed to be. Face it! as women there are some that will not admit that there bedroom is Not there favorite place to be. Is it because there is no enjoyment in the act , or to take it another step,what is holding the people of God back from complete sexual fulfilment with their spouses of course?
8 Comments:
At October 11, 2006 5:27 PM, WOF said…
I think one of the major things that is holding the people of God back from having a powerful sex life is exactly what we have going on with this post - "A LACK OF COMMUNICATION". How do we expect to get things fixed if we will not even talk about them. I am convinced that this mentality has carried over into the bedroom. Men "think" they know what their wives like in the bedroom, but those thoughts are fueled by the worlds way of doing things. Women, you may think your husband is selfish and lack compassion for your needs and desires, but if you do not talk about these things they will continue! If the husband and wife never have a conversation about this, it will be very difficult for it to change. Now, I know that wives do not want to bring this up because of how you "think" the conversation is going to go. You may have good reason to have your thoughts, but I urge you to seek the Lord for the right timing and words that will bring power to your bedroom lives and the right timing should not take 3 months!!! Come on, you want things to be different just as much as he does, so talk about it! This void that we in the body are allowing to overwhelm us must not go unchecked. We must also understand that this conversation helps those that are not yet married so they too will have an understanding of what a proper sexual relationship, ordained by God for marriage, should be! Let the conversation begin, and let the healing and change flow! If you want it to work, you have to make the steps required for progress - period!
At October 11, 2006 7:10 PM, Pastor Jamila said…
Well, That's the Law!!!
At October 13, 2006 9:46 AM, Compartmentally Unfufilled said…
WOF... that's all true, but how does a man of God encourage his wife to do what you are suggesting? My wife, whom I love and appriciate greatly has issues with communication, specificly concerning her sexual past. She tends to bottle all of that up and put a band aid on the situation that says "I'll try to work on it". The first time I heard this I was overjoyed! But after hearing it consistantly for years, I have begun to give up hope that this sexual scar of hers will ever be healed. And I believe that it's pride that keeps her from "going to the hospital", but I don't know how to eliminate pride from her spiritual life. I have interceded for her, we have prayed together and I have suggested "speaking life" and "speaking those things that are not, as though they were", but nothing has changed. I call myself "compartmenally unfufilled" because it's not every sexual area that frustrates me, just a couple. In fact I'm actually fairly satisfied sexually given our hectic schedule, but those couple of issues are major to me. WOF & Pastor Jarmilas... help... I don't know what else to do...
- Compartmentally Unfufilled
At October 15, 2006 11:26 PM, WOF said…
Compartmentally Unfufilled,
Moving your sex life to a level of mutual exceptance is a cycle. What I have found is that when the husband does "EVERYTHING", that he can to make sure that his wife's ENTIRE needs are met, the wife will then be highly motivated to meet the needs of her husband.
I want to be clear, that this process will not happen with one nice act from the husband or a weekend of helping out around the house... You have to make a true change in the manner in which you do things. I have one question for you - "ARE YOU SURE THAT YOUR WIFE IS HAPPY WITH YOUR SEX LIFE"? I am not talking about what you think, do you know if she is really fulfiled? When she is happy you will be happy!
At October 17, 2006 8:58 AM, Pastor Jamila said…
often times a woman doesn't want to tell her husband that she isn't fufilled sedualyy becuase she is afraid of how he is going to react . Just like with anything else. When reaction changes then communication opens up.
At October 17, 2006 10:03 AM, Anonymous said…
Comparmentfull unfulfilled made the statement that his wife will not "open up". My experience is that a lot times the woman has tried to open up but because of the circumstances of her past he has wanted her to "shut up". I don't know if that is because he and a husband does not want to think of his wife as being "less than virtuous" or just the thought of her with someone else could be too much to bear. Believe me my husband can spare me the graphic details of his past but i think it is important that he share with me what went on in the marriage before ours. I need to know these things so that I can understand why he is good on going on a cruise, or why I can not go out of town by myself. Compartmentally unfulfilled just might be missing the cues that she is giving to open up converstation. You still need to pray with her. Try to get her to open up a little and let down her guard.
At November 15, 2006 12:56 PM, The Big Dog Express said…
Why would a married woman want to go out of town by herself...? And I myself don't like the concept of curises, because your all the way in the ocean by yourselves... You can't walk to safety, people are getting killed on cruises and plus (believe it or not), there are still pirates out there! So that's why I'm "good" on going on a cruise. And I have never told you to "shut up", I may not have wanted to hear details, but I didn't say shut up... You know, I do appriciate your post, it realy gave me some insight.
The Big Dog Express
At December 05, 2006 3:36 AM, jus wonderin' said…
Me and my husband have a great sex life. It just seems though that I am looking for something more than "goog" sex now. Sometimes I am not even sure what it is.
I feel that sexual fulfillment comes when All of me is satisfied. I am not saying this never happens. It just seems as though lately we are so tired at the end of the day and we have to get up so early that we don't see time enough for anything besides "gettin down to business".
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